Innocent?

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IN THE REALM OF PERSONAL OR SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS — THIS IS NOT A LEGAL QUESTION
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Are those who act or speak, and are unaware of, and/or indifferent to, the hurt or damage they inflict, INNOCENT IN INTENT?

When the intent is the betterment of self, is there  INNOCENCE IN INTENT, when awareness of hurt or damage to another is absent?

Are consequences, or intent, more important?

Are adults morally obligated to rectify, or make amends, for unintended hurt or damage?

Do cultural mores matter?
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Sunrise St. Augustine    ⓒBearspawprint2014

Sunrise St. Augustine ⓒBearspawprint2014

 

 

Honor Is

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To get
Along together
Should Be
So simple

To act
With honor
Requires
So little

We are
Not required
To love
One another

We are
Not required
To trample
One another

We are
Not required
To subjugate
One another

We are
Not required
To understand
One another

We are
Merely required
To be
Mutually polite
And behave
With honor

Forgoing
Shame of
Ancestors
Guilty or
Victim

Forgoing
Allowing
Vengeance
Deserved or
Desired

Shame is
Not Honor

Revenge is
Not honor

Honor is
Not love

Honor is
That quality
Which allows
For love
To be

Bear … 07.06.2014
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Behavior

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Forgiveness of past
Does not absolve the future
Behave with honor
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Bear … 07.06.2014
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7. CONVERSATIONS WITH BUMP ONNA LOG

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BEAR: I have been thinking about the beauty of the Golden Rule.

BUMP ONNA LOG: Don’t tell me about the Golden Rule. I already know the Golden Rule. I learned it in Sunday School. I know I can never be a perfect as you are, but I do follow the Golden Rule. Not like you, with your all the time yammering. I don’t go to church or profess my beliefs, but I do follow the Golden Rule. For example, I don’t talk to you because I don’t want you to be jabbering at me.

BEAR: I am so glad that you are keeping thoughts of goodness and reciprocity in the fore of your mind. The Golden Rule is an important premise of guidance for daily behavior. However, sometimes, I am concerned that, maybe, you don’t really want those closest to you to treat you as you treat them.

BUMP ONNA LOG: Well see, this how I know I am better than you. I don’t have  that misgiving.

I know that if I  treat MYSELF as I want others to treat me, then  I make it easy for everyone. Those close to me don’t have to decide if they want to share with me. They just do.  It all works out for the best.  I’m setting a good example of how to behave properly towards me.

I always make sure my own needs and my own wants are cared for first. I don’t have to think about it.  I KNOW that I am important, and that I am loved, so everyone wants ME to have what I want. If my family sacrifices for me to be able to do what I want, that is because I am helping them to be generous by just taking the best and biggest, the heart out of the middle, first. That way nobody has to be concerned about it or worry about if they are sharing enough with me.  And I don’t have to be concerned if I am fair or too greedy, because I always have what I want, and sharing the rest (well, if there is any) is easy.

I wouldn’t want anything if, on some level, I didn’t NEED it. If I want it, I NEED it. So it is, by my rights, owed to me. I follow the rules, especially the Golden Rule. If there are any left-overs, that I am not saving for personal reasons, I’ll let those I want to know, know.  And if they can justify their begging to my satisfaction, of course I’ll dole out enough that I know I am still the better person. After all, I am the adult, I am a responsible person.

BEAR: Do you conceal largesse?

BUMP ONNA LOG: Of course. It is only sensible, I might want something tomorrow!! I have my own ongoing needs, so it is only wise to be prepared. I’m doing my family a favor by keeping their begging to a minimum. That way I don’t have to constantly be reminded of chronic problems, and they don’t have to be humiliated.

BEAR: I don’t think I can talk about The Golden Rule with you, just now.

BUMP ONNA LOG: Good.  You talk in gibberish, anyway.  Blah blah blah with all your busy-body nosy questions.

Bear … 04.28.2014

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Matthew 7:12 KJV
12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

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Golden Rule – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

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APOLOGY … NOT

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An apology unspoken
Is not.
Words of apology spoken
In lieu of meaning
Are not.
False apologies
Are apology not.
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Bear … 03.02.2014

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Words spoken with no heart
Are yet spoken not.
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Apologies With No Heart = False Apologies = Deceit
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Examples:

I’m sorry you feel that way.
I’m sorry that you have reacted that way.
Just let it go.
Let bygones be bygones.
I’m sorry that I can’t do anything right.
It’s too bad that you can’t get over this.
You are over reacting.
I don’t remember doing that.
I don’t remember saying that.
I want you to know that I am sorry.
What ever it is, I’m sorry.
You are making a mountain out of a molehill.
You are just being a drama queen.
I wasn’t aware that I was doing anything wrong.
This is not important.
This is not worth wasting time over.
I’m sorry that I can’t ever do anything to please you.
Let’s not dwell on this.
I wasn’t aware that I said that.
I’m sorry you ever met me.
I want you to believe that I am sorry.
I want you to understand that I am sorry.
I thought I did apologize.
I’m not going to apologize again.
That is all the apology you are going to get.
It’s not any use to even try.
I want you to believe that I did apologize.
I can’t undo what has been done, so just accept it.

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Have any of those been tried on you?
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Have you, yourself, pretended to apologize?
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APPENDIX 

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Suggested by                                                      False Apology

http://nackpets.wordpress.com/         I’m sorry I’m not as perfect as you are.
http://willowdot21.wordpress.com/      Sorry means nothing, it is easy to say …

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MORE:
I want you to trust me.
I want you to forgive me.
I want you to believe I deserve forgiveness.
Words are cheap.
I want you to accept this token.
Whatever you say.
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Bear … 03.02.2014

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