Gaslighting 💔 Difficult Questions

Difficult Questions –“Asking for a friend” — doing some research for a story

1. Can persons who, in their personal relationships, habitually, and with great cleverness, and feigned reasonableness “gaslight” EVER sincerely apologize and express true remorse?

2. Can charming and accomplished persons, who habitually “gaslight” in personal relationships, EVER, be trustworthy in personal relationships?

3. Can persons who chronically “gaslight” EVER acknowledge to themselves, or anyone else, what they are doing?

4. Is it possible for persons, who are comfortable with “gaslighting”, to resolve, with TRUE INTENT, to change their behavior patterns?

5. Can persons who “gaslight” EVER even WANT to change behavior?

Is there ANYTHING within a personal relationship that can curtail “gaslighting” or mitigate the damage?

Are any of the following feasible?
a. Choose neutral circumstances and talk, in an educational way, about gaslighting and consequences.
b. Whenever one becomes aware that gaslighting and/or deception is happening, call out the gaslighter.
c. Negotiate.
e. Seek professional counseling.
f. Give up and part ways, as much as possible.


Is there anyway to make GASLIGHTING not be, at all, rewarding to the gaslighter?

Most sources available, via the internet, suggest that {f. Give up and part ways, as much as possible.} is the only healthy scenario.

Sharon Rudd
©Bearspawprint 2019




Dear Ones,

I am told that some Indigenous medicine people think we, as a whole, are not in Tribulation. We are in a period of Transition.

I have found that change itself is not painful, it is the resistance to change that causes conflict. Especially if those others do not understand what is necessary and are fighting conscious evolution.

Doing without a bad habit is not what is painful, it is the clinging, even addiction, to the bad habit that hurts. Individuals, groups, even masses can be addicted to bad ideas and behaviors. Aggression is a bad behavior habit. The larger the portion of humanity who cling to the nasty old habits, the more difficult achieving global peace can, and will be.

However, there are many, including Elders who have suffered greatly in this life and have gazed into the Face of Evil, offer the hope that the basic goodness of humans will tip humanity towards an altruistic future.

It is the thought of myself, Agawela, that prophecies are merely warnings, not laws, about what most probably will come to be IF change is not expediently begun, enacted, and carried out.

Prophesies do not always reveal what change is required. That is part of the difficulty of clinging to old bad habits. All addictions, including wrong thinking, conceal TRUTH and the WAY TO PEACE.

If those whose desires are stronger towards their addiction for WAR dominate, then I, Agawela, say Tribulation and Apocalypse are the same.

Human disasters, that we make ourselves, can be averted, if the causes are dealt with in a timely manner. Those causes are not hidden.

I humbly thank those who are doing, and have done, what they can to preserve, protect, and generate goodness in this world.

I thank, also, those of you who hold the heroes of this world in your hearts.
It is your love, true and from the heart that creates balance against the ugliness. Without your love there would be no hope at all.

Thank you. I thank you all.
08.30.2017 ⓒBearspawprint2017

Նրանք վերցրել եմ սիրում


Նրանք վերցրել եմ սիրում — Lévon Minassian

They Have Taken The One I  Love

Withlacoochee River and Suwanee River

Withlacoochee River and Suwanee River

Withlacoochee River and Suwanee River ⓒBearspawprint2017

Withlacoochee River and Suwanee River ⓒBearspawprint2017

As I photographed this view of the merging rivers, January 14, 2017, I could hear the drills restart, just out of sight on the Suwanee River, on the right, to the North.

The fracked gas pipeline, known as the Sabal Trail Pipeline, has already been tunneled beneath the Withlacoochee River, which is on the left in this photo.

Drilling was held up for ONLY most of one day by Water Protectors in a peaceful direct action.

It is interesting to note that the number of law enforcement vehicles, which approached in a practiced formation, seemed to outnumber the Protectors.  The intimidating gesture was meant to instill hopelessness.  If there were four officers per vehicle, the Protectors were greatly outnumbered.  Though law enforcement and security did have visible sidearms they did not brandish  rifles or assault weapons.  They mostly stayed out of sight in the vehicles, only getting out in small groups, and kept weapons discreet.  However, the threat was there.

There were no overt confrontations that I observed, nor any arrests, though arrests have been made in previous encounters.  Procedural discrepancies and irregularities are being researched by Protectors hoping to find some way to stay the digging.

Bedrock here is porous karst and the whole area is subject to sinkholes.  The gorgeous interconnected underground rivers, caves, aquifer, glorious springs greeting the sunlight, and water systems is threatened in its entirety by any damage anywhere.

100% of all pipelines leak, sooner or later.

Agawela 01.16.2017

UPDATE:  Sacred Stone Camp 4:30 PM  — MLK Day

Update on #StopSabalTrail lockdown this morning: 8 have been confirmed arrested. Join them for a rally 8am tomorrow at the Suwannee County courthouse.

January 16, 2017

January 17, 2017 … sorry for the big size — they won’t edit down smaller





Published on Oct 21, 2016

The US Government just released this advert about the Dakota Access Pipeline and it’s surprisingly honest and informative.


1. Call North Dakota Governor Jack Dalrymple at 701-328-2200. When leaving a message stating your thoughts about this subject please be professional.
2. Call the White House at (202) 456-1111 or (202) 456-1414. Tell President Obama to rescind the Army Corps of Engineers’ Permit for the Dakota Access Pipeline.
3. Donate to support the Standing Rock Sioux at…
4. Donate items from the Sacred Stone Camp Supply List:
5. Contribute to the Sacred Stone Camp Legal Defense Fund:
6. Contribute to the Sacred Stone Camp gofundme account:
7. Sign the petition to the White House to Stop DAPL:…
8. Share this video.

* Written by Giordano – with ace input from Adso, Jake & Lucy
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* Presenter performed by Matylda
* Voice by Lucy
* Thanks to Lucy, Benna, Jillian, Franklin and Emily for valuable feedback
* Excerpts of footage gratefully borrowed from the following videos:
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– TRT World:…

– Spanish translation by Vitama
– Hebrew translation by Jonathan B
– French translation by Julie Chatagnon

☛ FURTHER READING – these are some good articles on this topic:
– Vox, “The fight over the Dakota Access Pipeline, explained”…
– Slate, “Standing Tall: The Sioux’s battle against a Dakota oil pipeline is a galvanizing social justice movement for Native Americans”…
– Time, “Shailene Woodley: The Truth About My Arrest,…

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Two Thousand Six Hundred Worthwhile Magazines Times Nine

Twenty Three Thousand Four Hundred
As soon as I get home
I shall cancel
All subscriptions
Especially those
That are interesting
And published weekly
Fifty Two times
Fifty years
Two thousand six hundred
To be eventually
Disposed of
Having quite
The disposing of
Aspect multiplied
By several other
Fifty plus year old
Of periodicals
I shall not bequeath
Such a legacy
Not even in
Chronological order
With lovely
Bear … o9.07.2015

Toxic Grin

The rivers are dead
And sky has turned red
Hungry ghosts howl and
Are begging to be fed
Cherubim suckle on
Zinc white painted lead
All has become as the
Henna haired seer said
There is no pillow
To rest your foolish head
You must share the
The poisoned dreams
Slumbering in the
Animas river-bed
And when all waters
Have withered and dried
You will find that
Your ancestors came this
Way before they died
Bear… 08.11.2015


Mercury and Selenium are Accumulating in the Colorado River Food Web of the Grand Canyon

Posted: 19 Aug 2015 10:24 AM PDT  Summary: Although the Grand Canyon segment of the Colorado River features one of the most remote ecosystems in the United States, it is not immune to exposure from toxic chemicals such as mercury according to newly published research in Environmental Toxicology and Chemistry


Toxic Fallout Continues as Colorado Mine Spill Declared Three Times Larger Than Stated

Goose Lake Dries Up

Smokey The Bear Says:



Alaska Firenado film by Douglas Burts   –Barton Hollow by The Civil Wars
Douglas Burts of the Alaska Division of Forestry caught footage of a firenado forming in the Tetlin Juction Fire at about 1900 August 16, 2013. Spruce trees with the root wad can be seen flung through the air.
In summer 2015, fires charred tens of thousands of acres in California.
Modis Image from Aug 03, 2015 (Posted on Aug 04, 2015 3:29 PM)


Lost Forests — haiku

Shimmering heat glare,
Mirage of cooling water,
Lost forests’ dry tears.