So much has been right,
Of which we do not
Want to loose sight;
But to ignore the wrong
Makes the hurt
Last too long.
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Agawela 3.15.2021
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Category Archives: Gaslighting
The Silence of Thorns
No longer
May I live
Near human
People so politely
Ignorant I scream
Uncaring civilized
And cry wailing
Too much and
Not enough bereft
Of the Veil
Some days all nights
Continuously calling
Screaming despair
While writing
While sewing
While making love
While mending
While wandering silent
Creating reasons
Of disillusioned basic
Belief agreement
Thinking unacceptable
Discordant weeping
While cooking sleeping
Other beings cringe
Shrinking from
My broken primal
Screaming wailing
Cries follow me
My own meteor tail
Of illuminated grief
What will never be
Yet waves flow
Rippling eternal
Illusion adorns my
Body as garments
Woven from despair
Sorrowing siren calls
I may never find the
Echoing perimeter
Of pain heartache
Buzzing louder
Harmonic pulses
Louder scream song
Enduring in the shouted
Silence continuously
I wail Anguish
Impenetrable
This barrier of Banshee
Screeching thorns
.
Agawela 03-13-2021
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Black Dog
.
There is
A Black Dog
In the corner.
He is trapped
By my despair.
His beauty
Is my anguish.
His glory
Is my pain.
He whimpers
And he howls.
Black Dog’s
Escape is fear.
Death, betrayal
And indifference
Call Black Dog’s
Other name.
.
4 November 2019
Bear ©Bearspawprint2019
Lotus Grows In Mud
.
.
Their hearts
Opened
Revealing
Only mud.
One
Lotus seed
Was
Planted
Within
Each heart.
In which
Lifetime
Will awareness
Sprout?
The Lotus
Flower
Exists
Fully formed
Within
The seed.
Waiting
And eternity
Are one.
Bear Agawela 0/16/2019
©Bearspawprint 2019
Gaslighting 💔 Difficult Questions
Gaslighting
Difficult Questions –“Asking for a friend” — doing some research for a story
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1. Can persons who, in their personal relationships, habitually, and with great cleverness, and feigned reasonableness “gaslight” EVER sincerely apologize and express true remorse?
2. Can charming and accomplished persons, who habitually “gaslight” in personal relationships, EVER, be trustworthy in personal relationships?
3. Can persons who chronically “gaslight” EVER acknowledge to themselves, or anyone else, what they are doing?
4. Is it possible for persons, who are comfortable with “gaslighting”, to resolve, with TRUE INTENT, to change their behavior patterns?
5. Can persons who “gaslight” EVER even WANT to change behavior?
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Is there ANYTHING within a personal relationship that can curtail “gaslighting” or mitigate the damage?
Are any of the following feasible?
a. Choose neutral circumstances and talk, in an educational way, about gaslighting and consequences.
b. Whenever one becomes aware that gaslighting and/or deception is happening, call out the gaslighter.
c. Negotiate.
e. Seek professional counseling.
f. Give up and part ways, as much as possible.
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Is there anyway to make GASLIGHTING not be, at all, rewarding to the gaslighter?
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Most sources available, via the internet, suggest that {f. Give up and part ways, as much as possible.} is the only healthy scenario.
05/14/2019
Sharon Rudd
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