Category Archives: Dear Ones

Gaslighting 💔 Difficult Questions

Gaslighting
Difficult Questions –“Asking for a friend” — doing some research for a story
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1. Can persons who, in their personal relationships, habitually, and with great cleverness, and feigned reasonableness “gaslight” EVER sincerely apologize and express true remorse?

2. Can charming and accomplished persons, who habitually “gaslight” in personal relationships, EVER, be trustworthy in personal relationships?

3. Can persons who chronically “gaslight” EVER acknowledge to themselves, or anyone else, what they are doing?

4. Is it possible for persons, who are comfortable with “gaslighting”, to resolve, with TRUE INTENT, to change their behavior patterns?

5. Can persons who “gaslight” EVER even WANT to change behavior?
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Is there ANYTHING within a personal relationship that can curtail “gaslighting” or mitigate the damage?

Are any of the following feasible?
a. Choose neutral circumstances and talk, in an educational way, about gaslighting and consequences.
b. Whenever one becomes aware that gaslighting and/or deception is happening, call out the gaslighter.
c. Negotiate.
e. Seek professional counseling.
f. Give up and part ways, as much as possible.

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Is there anyway to make GASLIGHTING not be, at all, rewarding to the gaslighter?
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Most sources available, via the internet, suggest that {f. Give up and part ways, as much as possible.} is the only healthy scenario.

05/14/2019
Sharon Rudd
©Bearspawprint 2019

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Ending

Convulsing
In paroxysms
Of grief
I have
Become
My own
Grandmother
Deceased
Long ago
Alone
Watching
Water flow
Ancestor
Mothers
Whispering
Our lives
Are now
Your
Daughter
Sorrow
Dismissed
By yowling
Pain
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Agawela 05/14/2019
©Bearspawprint2019

Wailing Sand

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I hear Wind
She gives
Voice to sand
Wailing mantra
Sparking current
Friction sowing
All ancestors
Weeping in
Blowing sand
Guabancex
Singing wild
Calls Huracan
Merging
Spiral song
Guatauva
New joy
Wind sings
Her prayer
An ecstasy
Cleansing
With gratitude
The pure
Coatrischie
Self Offering
Washes tears
Prayer restored
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Agawela…09.07.2017
ⓒBearspawprint2017

ANOTHER LETTER OF WARNING AND GRATITUDE FROM AGAWELA

ANOTHER LETTER OF WARNING AND GRATITUDE FROM AGAWELA
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I am truly grateful for honesty.

Courage is required to face one’s self, and those whom you carry in your heart, without disguise.

Deceit is the most hurtful of betrayals.

Backstabbing and gossip and innuendo and pseudo-insights fueled by misunderstanding and half-truths can cause permanent harm of unknown magnitude through unknown generations.

Betrayal of confidence and trust can cause irreparable harm of unknown magnitude through unknown generations.

Pretending virtue, pretending to pray, doing the motions of rituals without true good intent can open the way for malignant forces and malicious entities to become part of your sphere. This can be a damaging influence, not only on your own life, but on those for whom you truly care —- If you are capable of love, what can cause more grief than to harm the innocents whom you truly care for? False intent can manifest as illness, physical damage in an accident of seemingly unknown cause, or shame, grief, and pain in the heart of the innocent one. Not knowing the why of how they feel, they can become self destructive. Please be of true good intent in all of your actions. If you say you are praying, if you are acting out the outward motions … do PRAY.

I am grateful for those who are whole with themselves and honest with the universe.

I am grateful, also, for the harsh lessons learned through painfully resolved deceit, knowing that some things will never be comfortably resolved. I know that ongoing deceit causes wounds which cannot heal, with unknown repercussions generating sadness as an essence. I also know that deceit can be resolved with honestly facing the deceit and its causes, this also causes wounds, but these wounds, though scarring, can heal.

Thank you for all that you have done.

Thank you. I thank you all.
Agawela
09.01.2017 ⓒBearspawprint2017

“The truth shall set you free. But first it will piss you off.” Gloria Steinem

LETTER OF WARNING AND GRATITUDE FROM AGAWELA

LETTER OF WARNING AND GRATITUDE FROM AGAWELA

Dear Ones,

I am told that some Indigenous medicine people think we, as a whole, are not in Tribulation. We are in a period of Transition.
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I have found that change itself is not painful, it is the resistance to change that causes conflict. Especially if those others do not understand what is necessary and are fighting conscious evolution.

Doing without a bad habit is not what is painful, it is the clinging, even addiction, to the bad habit that hurts. Individuals, groups, even masses can be addicted to bad ideas and behaviors. Aggression is a bad behavior habit. The larger the portion of humanity who cling to the nasty old habits, the more difficult achieving global peace can, and will be.
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However, there are many, including Elders who have suffered greatly in this life and have gazed into the Face of Evil, offer the hope that the basic goodness of humans will tip humanity towards an altruistic future.
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It is the thought of myself, Agawela, that prophecies are merely warnings, not laws, about what most probably will come to be IF change is not expediently begun, enacted, and carried out.

Prophesies do not always reveal what change is required. That is part of the difficulty of clinging to old bad habits. All addictions, including wrong thinking, conceal TRUTH and the WAY TO PEACE.
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If those whose desires are stronger towards their addiction for WAR dominate, then I, Agawela, say Tribulation and Apocalypse are the same.
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Human disasters, that we make ourselves, can be averted, if the causes are dealt with in a timely manner. Those causes are not hidden.
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I humbly thank those who are doing, and have done, what they can to preserve, protect, and generate goodness in this world.

I thank, also, those of you who hold the heroes of this world in your hearts.
It is your love, true and from the heart that creates balance against the ugliness. Without your love there would be no hope at all.

Thank you. I thank you all.
Agawela
08.30.2017 ⓒBearspawprint2017

Նրանք վերցրել եմ սիրում

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Նրանք վերցրել եմ սիրում — Lévon Minassian

They Have Taken The One I  Love

Amen Hayr Sourp

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Lévon Minassian – Armand Amar – Amen Hayr Sourp – Ամեն Հայր Սուրբ – Songs From A World Apart – Photos by Steve McCurry

THANKSGIVING 2016

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MY DEAREST ONES, WHOM I HOLD IN MY HEART,
I AM GRATEFUL THAT YOU ARE.
 
THIS THANKSGIVING WE MAY GIVE THANKS.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT WE DO NOT HAVE TO MAKE THE SAME IRRESPONSIBLE AND DESTRUCTIVE MISTAKES THAT HAVE ALREADY BEEN MADE.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT WE ARE YET REQUIRED TO BE WILLFULLY IGNORANT OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF GREED AND LAZINESS AND UNCARING HEARTLESS EXPLOITATION AND DECEIT.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT IT IS STILL POSSIBLE TO DO BETTER.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT WE HAVE TIME TO AVOID A THIRD WORLD WAR.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT WE HAVE NOT YET DESTROYED ALL POTABLE WATER.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT WE HAVE NOT YET ANNIHILATED ALL SENTIENT BEINGS.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT THERE ARE THOSE WHO HAVE RISKED, ARE RISKING EV EN NOW, AND HAVE GIVEN ALL TO ALLOW US TO HAVE THE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE THE DIRECTION OF OUR FUTURE.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT WE STILL HAVE THE OPTION OF CHOOSING A BEAUTIFUL FUTURE FOR ALL OF HUMANITY AND ALL SENTIENT BEINGS.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS THAT THERE IS STILL TIME.
 
WE MAY GIVE THANKS.
 
I AM GRATEFUL.

DAKOTA EXCESS PIPELINE

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Published on Oct 21, 2016

The US Government just released this advert about the Dakota Access Pipeline and it’s surprisingly honest and informative.

☛ 10 WAYS YOU CAN HELP THE STANDING ROCK SIOUX FIGHT THE DAKOTA ACCESS PIPELINE: https://thejuicemedia.com/nodapl

1. Call North Dakota Governor Jack Dalrymple at 701-328-2200. When leaving a message stating your thoughts about this subject please be professional.
2. Call the White House at (202) 456-1111 or (202) 456-1414. Tell President Obama to rescind the Army Corps of Engineers’ Permit for the Dakota Access Pipeline.
3. Donate to support the Standing Rock Sioux at http://standingrock.org/news/standing…
4. Donate items from the Sacred Stone Camp Supply List: http://sacredstonecamp.org/supply-list/
5. Contribute to the Sacred Stone Camp Legal Defense Fund: https://fundrazr.com/d19fAf
6. Contribute to the Sacred Stone Camp gofundme account: https://www.gofundme.com/sacredstonecamp
7. Sign the petition to the White House to Stop DAPL: https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/peti…
8. Share this video.

☛ CREDITS:
* Written by Giordano – with ace input from Adso, Jake & Lucy
* Produced by Patrons of the Juice Media (join them: https://www.patreon.com/TheJuiceMedia)
* Presenter performed by Matylda
* Voice by Lucy
* Thanks to Lucy, Benna, Jillian, Franklin and Emily for valuable feedback
* Excerpts of footage gratefully borrowed from the following videos:
– Unicorn Riot: https://vimeo.com/182875115
– DemocracyNow!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VADcW…
– TeleSur: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wB-rJ…
– CarbonatedTV: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aepGZ…
– TRT World: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJ8pG…

☛ TRANSLATIONS:
– Spanish translation by Vitama
– Hebrew translation by Jonathan B
– French translation by Julie Chatagnon

☛ FURTHER READING – these are some good articles on this topic:
– Vox, “The fight over the Dakota Access Pipeline, explained” http://www.vox.com/2016/9/9/12862958/…
– Slate, “Standing Tall: The Sioux’s battle against a Dakota oil pipeline is a galvanizing social justice movement for Native Americans” http://www.slate.com/articles/news_an…
– Time, “Shailene Woodley: The Truth About My Arrest, http://time.com/4538557/shailene-wood…

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I Am Away

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I have buried

My fear in

Imagined

Strength.

Conjured love

Does the work.

I am unable

To do what

Has been asked.

In my falling,

Have I become

Your soft landing?

Am I an

Obstacle,

Waiting on your

Darkened path?

Shall we slide,

Entangled,

Over the edge?
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Bear … April 30, 2015
ⓒBearspawprint2015
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I am pretending this photo is of my home.

I shall be away from the computer for a while.

Erwin Schrodinger

The music is Go Forward by Lisa Gerrard, from the OST of the film Whale Rider

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